this fish needs a t-shirt

Thanks to This Fish Needs a Bicycle and Woman of the Law, (who had a This Fish link on her blog as well), I am now the proud recipient and owner of a large baby t-shirt on its way to me. I can't wait to explain the meaning of the t-shirt. I have been a fan of This Fish (and Woman of the Law, for that matter) for awhile now.

And I can relate to This Fish's New York Times article. How was Heather able to quelch her own desire to reciprocate and fire back to the person that sent her the anonymous email? That has always been a tough struggle for me. It's not that I'm a typically revengeful person, but at the same time I like to know that someone is "going to get theirs." For example. Let say that a friend of mine is divorcing her husband because of his infidelity. I would like to know that he gets paid back somehow, whether it's a broken heart of his own in the future, financial ruin, etc... I guess that old saying "what goes around comes around..." -- I just want to know that the saying is accurate and not some old wives' tale to make everyone cease gossiping.

In my life the saying has been true. In some others it has been true.

The problem becomes, how much is enough? How much bad luck or revenge is enough to reciprocate what negative someone did? It never is enough is the answer here. Somehow I have to look at someone and although I feel negative toward them because they aren't true, or because they are cut-throats trying to step on everyone along the way to the top, or they lie and manipulate (even to the people I love); I have to let it go. People forgive others, and although I think it is nearly impossible and a miracle to change - somehow I have to believe that people can change.

This really has nothing to do with that t-shirt coming, but as usual another tangential thought thanks to Heather.